A Quick Note on Sexism in Golf
It is a topic that has been discussed and debated for as long as the game has been played. While racial boundaries are slowly being broken around country clubs and golf courses across the globe, an unmistakable aura of sexism still exists around golf, even if only in limited circles (frankly, I think it is much more prevelant). Our own Emily Kay touched on one such example in an earlier article, however I feel another perspective can help drive her point home further: a male's perspective.
Having worked in the golf industry for over 10 years earlier in my life - and now as a golf writer/blogger - I have had the opportunity to witness the various behaviors and candid whisperings from country club members from an outsider's perspective. As a bag room employee at my local club in Illinois growing up, I would routinely assist members with preparing for their rounds, cleaning their clubs, and organizing golf outings for our membership.
When working with the club's female members, a few characteristics were commonplace. Many of our female members had either just recently picked up the game or would seldom come out to the course to practice, which did lead to some longer rounds of golf. On average, this specific country club's female demographic was also a bit older than the much larger male membership count (our Ladies' Club Champion was in her 60s for most of my time there). There were also a few ladies who seemed to be a bit more "demanding" in their customer service requests in comparison to others, but nothing out of the ordinary. Every so often a "Mrs. Havercamp" joke would be exchanged among the male members, but for the most part everyone got along quite nicely.
Our male membership exuded more... interesting qualities rather frequently, which included:
- Excessive swearing and shouting, even while in the presence of junior golfers
- Displays of public drunkenness that would sometimes result in my having to retrieve a golf cart from a creek
- Overly-aggressive hacks at a missed putt on a green out of anger that often resulted in gaping divots taken from the putting surface
- Incessant chauvinistic comments and gestures towards female waitresses, employees, and lifeguards that went above and beyond sexual harassment
- Failure to maintain even the most fundamental etiquette while on the course, such as replacing a divot or repairing a ball mark
- and, to top it all off, issuing constant complaints to the Pro Shop about the female golfers "playing too slow"
Try as we might to promote equality within our private memberships and premium tee-times, a few misinformed loudmouths continue to cast stones in the direction of female golfers for simply trying to enjoy perhaps the greatest game in the world. In most cases, these same individuals could learn a lesson or two from our female counterparts about how to respect the game.
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I’ve played golf a long time and I have yet to witness a woman so drunk that she’s driven a cart into a creek and then blamed the cart for its predicament.
I have seen that — and more — from men. I’ve seen men so drunk that they could not connect with the ball when they swung the club. I’ve seen men so drunk that they took relief of their full bladder with children within sight (not that they’d be able to see this.) That was on the hole I live on and from a co-worker, no less — who then told me to ease up and not be so uptight. It was at that point I removed my clubs from the cart and then walked home — a total of 250 yards. I’d had it and I felt like getting into a fistfight wasn’t in my personal best interests. If a kid had seen the guy’s personal goods, I probably would have slugged him, that’s how mad I was.
I’ve heard women curse, yes, but that’s a rare event — perhaps 1 out of 100 women curse loudly when they dunk a shot into the creek surrounding the green I live aside. Perhaps 1 out of ever 5 men do. It’s so prevalent a neighbor’s parrot is said to imitate the sound of the click of a golf club hitting a ball and then cursing like a sailor a few seconds later. I do not know how true that story is, but based on my own backyard experience, I am ready to believe it.
I actually prefer playing with women because it is almost always a round of mutual encouragement, of laughter at our foibles and fun. I also enjoy playing with women because it is a chance for me personally to undo some of their bad experiences on different courses. It isn’t hard to stay sober golfing, nor is it hard to be polite and act like the sort of adult my parents raised me to be.
I don't think that people should make stereotypical generalizations based on gender, even if they might be true.
There probably are more rude male golfers, but then there are more male golfers to begin with. I’ve seen some pretty rude women golfers too. Golfers in general these days have become a ruder bunch than their forebears. I have belonged to two clubs, and each one has a “Women’s Day” with tee times specifically set aside for women golfers so that they won’t have to encounter their “boorish” male counterparts. I don’t know if that would ever happen at a public course, but I am sure that if the demand were there, the courses would make it happen.
Really?
Clubs can do whatever they want. Public courses tend to be much more democratic with tee times. My gal pals and I never have difficulty getting Saturday morning tee times. Although we’re all mid-20 handicappers we tend to be very aware of our pace of play. I can’t count the number of times we, as a foursome, end up cooling our heels waiting on a threesome of men. There have been rangers who made fools of themselves, but generally we’re treated pretty well at our local public courses. I think the private clubs could learn something.
Every time I think I might be interested in joining a club, I remember the stories you guys tell. Thanks for making it easy for me to save my money and my sanity.
"(I)f you think you've got an inside track to absolute truth, you become doctrinaire, humorless and intellectually constipated." Saul Alinsky
I never said that women couldn't obtain Saturday or Sunday morning tee times at my club.
I just said that they have a “Women’s Day,” usually on a weekday. The men are not allowed to book a tee time during that time, and the women love it since they don’t have to deal with the men bothering them. There is also a “Men’s Day” on a different weekday morning. There are plenty of women who choose to play on a weekend morning.

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